Christmas, New Year, and Thanksgiving is such a festive time that brings family together. It’s a fun and neat way to maintain tradition and to stay connected with those we love. For most any way.

This year, I’ve been thinking about those who struggle through the holidays. It can be a reminder of a loved one that has passed or a first time holiday they are spending it without those special people in their lives. For these folks, it can be a reminder of what was lost versus what to cherish.

I’m not trying to get depressing here. But I think it’s worth thinking about that some struggle a lot during the holiday season because it brings back potentially painful memories. To numb the pain, some may veer towards food, binge eat, or have other coping mechanisms that may or may not be harmful. It is not a testament to character. Rather, it’s something good to keep in mind because these people can benefit from additional support from friends and family around them.

In society, there is a culture of shame around over-eating, gaining weight, as if someone is “losing it.” If you lost someone you love or went through some trauma around this time of year, would you simply conclude that you “lost it” when you should be celebrating? I highly doubt it. That would be insensitive.

There are a lot of reasons for someone’s body to change. Whether it’s hormones, genuine relationship issues, stress, or trauma, please don’t jump to conclusions when someone may look physically different than what you remember. Everyone deserves the same compassion, grace, and understanding for what they go through as any of us.

My wish this holiday season is for those who are in seasons of mourning, grieving, or weeping to receive the comfort and support they need to get through this holiday season.

Wishing everyone a wonderful holiday.

Cheers!

Suren Chiu